I am always fascinated by how our minds work. NLP is a great area to study if you want to know more about this area.
We take on board information about our world through our senses. We see, we hear, smell, taste and feel things. When we think about those things, we see pictures in our mind, hear the sounds, smells, tastes and experience how things feel.
How Can the Mind Create Anxiety
Having worked with many people I often check out how they think about the events that bother them, that have occured in their life. (This can be used as a diagnostic tool). Often (not always) they will tell you that these events are bright, clear and vivid. They will often say that, even if the event is thirty or even forty years old.
Well, generally for most people if an event is of no significance, it is not bright, vivid and clear if it is an old memory. In fact if you tap on the clear bright events using EFT, they change in how they look. People will often say, “it doesn’t seem as clear”, or “it seems distant” , the memory fades.
A client I worked with had bright images of all the events in her life. Since she had had quite a stressful life that was quite significant. The issue she came with was anxiety, which is a fear of what might happen in the future. If you think about it if your mind keep bright clear images of all the nasty uncomfortable events in your life, my guess is you would feel very anxious wondering when the next disaster is going to occur. Another guess is that the mind did this to try and protect her. The logic being that if she remembered these events she would be cautious in her future and thus safer. Unfortunately, holding onto the memories as if they are still occurring (big bright images) didn’t protect the client, it just led to her feeling extremely anxious.
Tapping on the need to hold on to the events etc led to the memories fading very quickly.
Having a knowledge and understanding of NLP can give a big boost to EFT. I generally teach some NLP on my EFT Courses as I think it makes a huge difference to the effectiveness of EFT.
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Categories: Anxiety · EFT
Many people have blocks when it comes to setting up in business, in fact I run an EFT Marketing course. One of the main foccusses is clearing those blocks.
Anne Yates was one of the people who kindly volunteered to be filmed whilst I worked with her on some issues she had in this area of her life. Although we worked on clearing her blocks regarding her business as Anne points out in the feedback/ story below the issue was also present in her life.
Anne’s Story: How Clearing Her Business Blocks Led to Her Flying Thru the Trees Like Tarzan
“The day had arrived and in the office the atmosphere was filled with apprehension and in-trepidation!
I had tapped with Tania a few weeks previously on an issue I had had since I was a little girl…..why was it always me that was left on this side of the stream whilst everyone else had thrown caution to the wind and taken the leap across!! This had seemed to follow me through my whole life in many situations I found myself in. [Read more →]
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Categories: EFT · EFT Training Courses
Weight Loss and EFT: Part 1
By Tania A Prince
As the summer approaches and as bikinis loom on the horizon the idea of weight loss is not far from many people’s thoughts. During the filming I did in Wales, I worked with a volunteer who has had a weight problem for as far back as she can remember, it was very interesting. I spoke with her after the filming and she told me about all the changes that had occured for her, namely, acceptance of herself, being able to stop eating after taking a bite instead of having to eat everything until she literally felt sick. So she is well on track to dealing with her food issues.
However now I fell inspired to write a series on weight loss, well that is if I don’t decide to get out in the sun and take advantage of the sun peaking through the normally cloudy British sky.
So how can EFT help with Weight Loss?
EFT can help change how you relate to food. It can clear the emotional underpinnings of this common problem.
Weight and Identity: We form our identity, our concept of who we are by looking at the events in our life. So if you have faced adversity many times in your life and valiantly stood up for yourself in those situations, you may think of yourself as a “strong, brave person“. That becomes your identity.
Likewise if you have carried weight all your life you may see your self as “overweight”, you might associate overweight with “who you are”, your identity. You might actually be uncomfortable at the thought of being slim, because, it might not be “who you are“. This can create fear/ discomfort “who will you be” if you are not overweight.
This is where EFT can help. You need to change this so you are totally comfortable being the slim version of you.
To deal with this piece of the weight issue, you might tap on:
“Even though I am frightened when I think about losing weight, who will I be if I am slim, I completely and totally accept how I feel, and I accept me anyway”.
Tap all the way through a round of EFT until the prospect of being slim feels/ seems totally comfortable for you.
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How can you work with children using EFT? Linda Wood the developer of Magic Buttons the tapping bear joined me to discuss her approach using a teddy bear with special tapping points.
She also goes on to discuss how tapping bears can also be used by adults. I think many people will find this an eye opening interview.
Linda Wood can be contacted via her website
This audio file is just over thirteen minutes long
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Categories: EFT · Uncategorized
Part 1: Approaches to Inner Child Work
Inner child work seems is becoming increasingly popular as a way to work with EFT. Combining the two approaches can be an interesting way to work. It can create deep inner healing as can any method of working that goes to the deep roots of the issue.
There are different ways you can approach inner child work, I personally start by establishing communication with the inner child whilst having the client tap on the karate point.
Generally I ask the adult client to go inside and ask the child, “what do you need in order to heal?” This is a great starting point as it lets you know where you need to go with the EFT. A point about starting inner child work in this way is that the inner child is now being listened too and their needs established. You are also beginning to set up acceptance and unconditional positive regard for the inner child, this can be extremely healing in and of itself.
Typical things that the inner child has communicated is:
“I need to be held”
“I need to be loved”
Of course if the client is antagonistic toward the inner child you would need to clear this first, reframing whilst using EFT is a great way to do this.
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Categories: EFT · EFT and Inner Child Work
